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Why We Fail: 7 Common causes of Personal and Business Failures”



By Tony Ogunlowo

Your plan could involve what you want to achieve academically or  it could be a business start-up or even having a successful relationship. Or it could just be to be successful in life.

You’ve done all your sums, put in all the hard work and success fails to materialize – You’ve Failed!

And then you start to wonder how after all the effort you put in things didn’t work out as you planned.

The truth is you haven’t failed you’ve only experienced what I’ll call a temporary set-back which can easily be reversed. You don’t fail-fail unless you decide to call it quits – and that’s what a lot of people do when they say they’ve failed.

So let’s see why you fail:

1, Setting unattainable goals – we’re all guilty of setting our goals too high, sometimes. We all want to swim across the Atlantic Ocean before we can even swim the length of a swimming pool! The secret here is to set ourselves attainable goals we can achieve within a set period of time with our current resources. Crawl, walk, run and then fly!

2, Failure is a teacher – The mere fact that you’ve failed in your current quest doesn’t mean you’ve failed – or you’re a failure in life. It just means you’ve failed to do something right.

If you build a plane and it doesn’t fly what have you done wrong? Go back to the drawing board! Perhaps you need a bigger engine or longer wings. Failure teaches us to troubleshoot our endeavours and lives and gives us the opportunity to go back and fix it.If you’re failing a mathematics exam perhaps you need to learn more or get a personal tutor. Thomas Edison didn’t invent the light bulb until at his one thousandth attempt to which he told a reporter” I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps”. Learn from your mistakes.

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3, You don’t learn from past mistakes – So you’ve screwed up before in the past and still haven’t learnt your lesson? Let’s say you have a history of dating bad women and your current girlfriend is bad. You haven’t learnt your lesson! Ditch your past mistakes, change whatever it is you’re doing wrong and move on! Or you’ll keep on having recurring problems and never succeed.

4, You lack persistence – So you’ve failed! So what? You sit down there crying your eyes out feeling sorry for yourself. Rome wasn’t built in a day! You need to be persistent, proactive and carry on.

5, Lack of conviction – Having a plan and a goal is good but if you lack the conviction you’ll forever be procrastinating and never get anything done. You’ve got a plan, now believe in it and work on it, relentlessly, until you achieve your goal. This also means you need to be self-disciplined to work hard and follow a strict routine. When Mark Zuckerberg first set up Facebook he self-disciplined himself to work 12-hour days(- something he still does!) and more if need be, No pain, no gain!

6, Lack of self-esteem –  Most people take a look at their successful peers and automatically brand themselves failures. The mere fact your classmates have gone on to become lawyers, politicians and top businessmen and you’re a poor struggling civil servant doesn’t mean you’re a failure in life. Our paths and goals in life are all different. Disregard what everybody else is doing and set YOUR OWN goals  for what you WANT in life that will make you happy. If your ambition is to own a car, go for it and disregard the man who is buying a plane: your goal is to own a car and his is a plane. If you continually think about somebody else’s achievements it’ll knock your self-esteem and you’ll end up feeling sorry for yourself.

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7, Taking a risk –  A lot of people spend their entire lives in the Comfort Zone because they are too scared to take a risk for fear of failure. This ultimately leads to procrastination and you’ll never get anything done. Again before taking a risk you need to weigh up both the pros and cons before proceeding. When asked why he risked investing all the millions he made from the sale of PayPal in his then rocket start-up SpaceX – a venture that was deemed to fail – Elon Musk replied by saying he knew the venture had less than a 10% chance of succeeding but he was going to take a risk and invest anyway. SpaceX has gone on to become one of the most innovative and profitable rocket launching companies in the world. Musk has gone on to apply the same risk-taking policy to Tesla and his other ventures propelling him into the billionaires ranks worth more than $20 billion.

If you’re scared of taking a calculated risk for fear of failure even before you’ve started you’re in the wrong boat! Stay in your comfort zone!Sometimes you have to take a calculated risk and hope for the best.

There can be other mitigating factors affecting your growth or ability to reach your full potential such as the company you keep, bad decisions or even people putting obstacles in your way, but all these can be surmounted if you adopt what I call a ‘no-problem-can-stop-me’ attitude. Be strong, hang in there .

Failure is a temporary situation we find ourselves in from time to time when things don’t go according to plan. It only becomes permanent if you don’t act upon it accordingly. If an 80-year old woman, in Kenya, can go back to primary school to learn how to read and write and still harbour dreams of becoming a teacher what makes you think you’re a failure in life?


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Why Should Yahoo Boys Be Arrested?, Gifty Powers Asks



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Big Brother Naija housemate, Gifty Powers, has come to the defence of cyber fraudsters.

The celebrity who was silent all through Naira Marley’s ordeal has suddenly become an advocate of Yahoo boys.

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In a social media post, she wrote: “Yahoo Yahoo is just a game, why arrest Yahoo boys”

The post has since attracted mixed feelings from those in support and against.

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Recall that Naira Marley was recently arrested by the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) for alleged cybercrime offences.



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Officials Kick Against TB Joshua’s Isreal Crusade


on is reporting that religious and political officials in Nazareth, Isreal have kicked against a planned crusade by Prophet TB Joshua.

According to the report, the founder of the Synagogue Church Of All Nations (SCOAN), an interdenominational ministry based in Lagos, Nigeria had expected the event to attract thousands to Nazareth, Isreal.

Known for his global trips during which he preaches the gospel to the world, the man of God is slated to speak at the Amphitheatre of Mount Precipice.


However, since the announcement, the crusade has been greeted with mixed feelings until the thumb down by officials of Nazareth.

Since the criticisms, speculations on the possibility that Joshua will still be allowed into Isreal have gone viral.

Prior to the chain of criticism, SCOAN in a statement had said: “Nazareth is a humble place with people who live at peace. Our goal is to love one another just as ourselves, so everyone is welcome to attend our meetings. We hope to be a blessing to anyone who interacts with us regardless of their religious or political background.”

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This is not the first time that Joshua will be visiting Israel, as he has been hosted on numerous occasions, during which he met Israeli dignitaries such as Minister of Tourism Yariv Lenin, Minister of Communications Ayoob Kara and Rabbi David Lau, the Chief Rabbi of Israel.


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Man Set Ablaze By Hoodlums In Ajah Dies



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A man who was set ablaze by hoodlums in Ilaje area of Ajah in Lagos State has died.

According to report, the man died from the burns he suffered from the attack.

Trouble started when hoodlums stormed the area in the early hours of Thursday, June 20, and attacked some settlers over an existing battle for a piece of land.

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The crisis soon degenerated into something else with gunshots reportedly fired by both parties, leading to a resident being set ablaze.

When our reporter visited the scene of the fracas, police patrol vans with heavily armed policemen had taken over the area.

Commuters and sellers went on their normal business as if nothing had taken place in the area.

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Speaking with, Akeem an NURTW staff revealed that the whole fight took place early in the morning, as normalcy had been restored.

Graphic: Man set on fire by hoodlums dies in Ajah

Graphic: Man set on fire by hoodlums dies in Ajah



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